She should feel like you are her number one fan, at all times. Boost her head. Google synonyms to beautiful & divine in search of the perfect descriptor. Stroke her ego in every direction. Make your adoration blatant. Let her know everyday that you are, in fact, the lucky one.
ladies, if a guy doesn’t eat pussy but still expects to get his dick sucked… laugh right in his face. laugh as you put your clothes back on. leave the room in the midst of your laughter. go home while laughing. keep laughing for the rest of your life. never stop laughing.
“That is, I stop to look where texts take tropes like women-as-flowers, women-as-water, women-as-sugar cane, invented to justify keeping Caribbean women and territories in someone else’s control, and redeploy these same tropes to imagine a landscape belonging to Caribbean women and Caribbean women belonging to each other.”—Tinsley, Omise’eke Natasha. Thiefing Sugar: Eroticism between Women in Caribbean Literature. Durham: Duke University Press, 2010, 2. (via qswg)
All children are born with emotional needs. These needs must be met by the adults in their life if they’re to grow into confident and independent adults. The acronym PARENTS summarises children’s needs (Protection, Acceptance, Recognition, Enforced limits, Nearness,…
Whether by choice or by force the Diaspora is irrefutably African. Of course, our distinct histories and conditions have led to the unique and varied circumstances of us in the Diaspora and those on the Continent and these distinctions cannot and should not be ignored. However at the end of the day, where we have been put or where we have gone is only secondary to from where we have come.
That being said, wherever it may be that we find ourselves we must strive to know the breadth our past. Not a fabricated account as told by those who seek our absolution for the wrongdoings of their ancestors upon ours (the same who show no remorse for exerting their resulting privilege). They do not know our history, they cannot teach it to us. We must hear our history from the mouths of those who have lived it. Only from their stories, through their pain can we find the pride necessary to understand our present situations and build a strong future, one with institutions that are meant to protect our unique interests whatever they may be.
It is equally important for those on the Continent to understand how the Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade has disenfranchised forced Diasporans and built up the economies of Europe and North America as it is for those who are a part of said Diaspora to understand the underdevelopment associated with colonialism and the erratically misguided partition of the Continent. We should try and be as familiar with the institutions and traditions of our Continent’s past as much as we are with the ways in which our ancestor’s customs have manifested themselves on far-off soil.